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Help! My Daughter’s boyfriend may be an a**hole!

What does one do when they are really upset but can’t talk to anybody about it? Why blog of course!  So I know this will be a complete rant sorry, but ranting can be useful.  Maybe you can give me some advice.

What do you do when you find out your daughter’s boyfriend is not what everyone thought.  Their relationship is young, just 8 months but when you are 17 that is forever and a long time to have invested in another person.  They have been totally compatible, inseparable, happy in their own world!  Awesome, super intelligent, attractive and  the power couple!

Until today, she discovered while looking at his Ipod touch that he has been talking to an unknown girl, not just talking but talking about meeting up and cuddling with this girl!! What??  Could he be that much of a heartless a**hole? A deceiver, have they met up?  Even if not, does it matter has cheating already taken place?  What constitutes cheating?

Of course the secondary problem is that she has this information but doesn’t know how to bring it up to him, without sounding like she has been snooping!  Which truthfully, she probably was snooping.  I told her if you didn’t feel something was amiss you wouldn’t have been looking in the first place.  But now what to do?  As far as I am concerned it is over and she should throw him under the bus.  But of course that is a mom talking.

I don’t want her settling for someones crumbs when she should be someones cherries jubilee!  How could this happen?  She is totally devoted to him, but also her own person.  She is beautiful, intelligent, well-read, and a sweetheart!  (this from her mom)   but, he is all  of these things too, except maybe replace beautiful with handsome.  Until today, now , now what is he?  Was this some sort of mistake?  Words don’t lie though so it doesn’t seem possible that there was some mistaken meaning.   Then there is that expensive necklace he just bought her for her birthday.  A moment of guilt?  Redemption in his own mind? What? It was bought and given after the said clandestine text exchange.  So what does it mean?

Is there a way to confront him?  Doesn’t she have the right to say something, since he was the one being deceitful?  She said that she doesn’t want to accuse him of something if there is nothing.  But to me it seems like there has already been something, even if it was just an attempted something.  So next time, it may be a full cheat session and she will have been made the fool.  Err!!!

Of course relationships may come and go but cheating, really at this age?  It seems so calculated. A way of thinking that I just can’t wrap my mind around.  She truly deserves better, how can I make her realize this fact?

What do you think?  Any advice or opinion would be welcomed.   Should she confront him and if yes then how?

I told her that she deserves to be treated well and shouldn’t settle for less.  Also if he isn’t going to treat her well, someone else would be more than happy to treat her with the respect that she deserves.

I would love to give him a piece of my mind let me tell you, but as a mom I know I must not.  The best I can do is give her support and hopefully give her good advice and build her up.  Wow,  this is one of those really difficult parent moments and I just want to cry with her over this! Help!

You Know What It’s Like – Jane

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One thought on “Help! My Daughter’s boyfriend may be an a**hole!

  1. oh wow. so sorry! it’s like i always say – mess with me, fine. mess with my kid and angry momma bear comes out. 🙂 i haven’t had to deal with the broken heart issue, but it sounds like you are doing all the right things. good luck! love, kelly

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